When I was in college, I had a professor who told us about his early days of marriage, and how his wife was just learning to cook. To save her from devastated tears, and him from having to eat nasty meals, they came up with a simple question – “Is it worth making again?”
Years later after I was married, my husband & I borrowed this nugget of wisdom for ourselves. I’ve been cooking since I was young, and I’m even pretty good at it (if I may say so myself!), but that doesn’t mean we like everything that I make. This is especially true of testing new recipes.
This is always a touchy subject in our house – my husband insists that when you’re trying a new recipe for the first time you MUST follow it to a T. My philosophy is a little more lax, especially if there’s something in the recipe that I don’t like. 8 cups of mushrooms in my gravy? No thanks! Or even better, something that I love. Who in their right mind only puts 1 tsp of vanilla extract, really?! Some recipes were just never meant to be good (no matter how delicious they seem), and others are great, but just need a little tweaking. Either way, we’ve definitely had our fair share of experiments gone wrong.
It took some time, but my husband is now gracious enough to just say “Ummm…I don’t know if this one is worth making again.” Or, “It’s ok, but maybe next time without [insert offensive food here – ie apples in his salad].” For some reason he has a huge beef with fruit in salad. I keep throwing it in there & hoping he just won’t say anything, but no dice. (OK, no more food/cooking innuendos, promise! Though I am pretty punny…hahaha.)
Anyways, when he really enjoys something, he says “Meh, it’s good.” But then follows it up with “Definitely worth making again!” Something about being a man implies that “good” = “awesome” = “meh” = “OK” = “I don’t really like it and I’m just not telling you” = “I don’t care”. Yeah, I’m still trying to work all of that out too. Do you have a special code phrase that you use for your spouse to politely tell you that your food sucks? Share it in the comments below, we’d love to glean from your wisdom too!